What's wrong with me?

<p>What's wrong with me?</p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p><strong>Objective: </strong></p><p> </p><p>As we go through the journey of life we’d encounter people and situations that would make us doubt who we are and what we’re worth. These will lead us to question all the things we’ve done and makes us think that it’s all because of us why things didn’t go the way we expect it to. This episode seeks to dig deep with these thoughts and to see if it’s really just on us. Are we the only ones who were at fault? </p><p> </p><p><strong>Flow:</strong></p><p><strong>Why do we always think It’s us who’s not enough? </strong></p><p> </p><p>·    Self-Blaming a survival response when a negative experience happens like when someone stops talking to us or something doesn’t go our way, we always look inwards and ask what went wrong.  </p><p>·    As humans we always would like to have the reason as to why things happen that way. </p><p>·    A part of us thinks maybe it was something that we could have done because those are the only things we have an idea of and power over. </p><p>·    By blaming ourselves, we maintain the perception that we’re still in control of the situation and ultimately safe -even when we’re not. </p><p> </p><p><strong> </strong></p><p><strong>Why do we blame ourselves for the things we can’t control? </strong></p><p> </p><p>·    There are various reasons why we do this because at this point it’s a learned behavior. Meaning that the people around us may have something to do with it and how we grew up in our household. </p><p>·    We may have been surrounded by people who don’t take accountability for their actions and puts the blame on people who doesn’t have anything to do with it. Usually happens with parents and kids who have dysfunctional relationships or being with a toxic partner. </p><p> </p><p>·    Because we want to have a sense of control, being able to know figure out what went wrong on our end to be able to avoid these negative experiences in the future. </p><p>·    Let’s remember that bla