How to Quit Buffering

Asma Sherif Moneer

30 min•0 پلے•0 پسندیدہ

Knowledge

تفصیل

So many of us use (or have used) buffering as a way of tolerating things that aren’t acceptable in our lives.We use alcohol to make a boring party more fun. We use food to get rid of that anxious feeling in our stomach when we know our partner will respond with anger when we bring up a difficult topic. We use Netflix to distract ourselves from a stressful job that we hate.What’s underneath this is: you have something in your life that isn’t great, something in your life that doesn’t really work, something in your life that you want to change.But instead of changing it, instead of working on it, instead of making it better, you just buffer instead. And all of that buffering will make the fact that something isn’t right in your life a lot easier to tolerate.What’s wrong with this, exactly? What’s wrong with being able to tolerate something hard in life a little better?<h2>It doesn’t fix the problem.</h2>Buffering just makes bullshit more tolerable instead of seeing that your emotions are information and are trying to tell you something – which can then lead to actions to change the situation that you’re tolerating.When you feel anxious. Angry. Bored. Restless…All of that is telling you that something is out of alignment. Something isn’t right with how you want to live your life. How you want to be living this one precious human life that we have.Whatever it is, when we don’t allow space for those hard emotions and buffer instead, sure, it makes the shitty feelings easier to deal with – it buffers them – but we don’t take action to solve the actual issue.We don’t have the hard conversation with our partner asking to be treated with more respectWe don’t start searching for another job. We don’t get to bed earlier and wake up to work out and meditate to deal with our stress.Truth? Yes. It’s a helluva lot easier to buffer than face those hard truths. Because buffering doesn’t re

تخلیق کار

deeporter

Creator