Your Pain Tells The Story of Your Lived Reality

<p>Your Pain Tells The Story of Your Lived Reality<br/><br/>Most of my life, emotional pain meant I was either sinning, in error, or expressing some kind of flaw in my nature.<br/><br/>I learned to see my pain this way through the reactions I received from my parents and culture.  <br/><br/>They routinely responded to my pain with:<br/><br/>- dismissal<br/>- claims that boys don&apos;t cry<br/>- shaming of the emotion (why do you feel that way???)<br/>- annoyance at the pain<br/>- sometimes outright rage<br/>- accusation that I feel this way due to some kind of error or sin I&apos;ve done (what have you done to make yourself feel this way?)<br/><br/>These reactions led me to believe my pain was a shameful, awful thing that I should hide and should try to stop or fix entirely.<br/><br/>I developed deep self-hatred for my pain - because my pain was hated.<br/><br/>I broke through this programming in 2009 when I started to view my pain as the somatic expression of a story - namely the story of what I had been living through.  I had been seeing how my clients pain was telling a story, and it clicked that maybe mine was, too.<br/><br/>Learn in today&apos;s episode how pain tells the story of our lived experiences and why this is essential and key to real, lasting healing.<br/><br/><br/>***<br/><br/>Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.com<br/><br/>Join my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.com<br/><br/>Follow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.com<br/><br/>***<br/><br/><br/>[The The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Is Back! We Start September 24, 2023]<br/><br/>Stop codependency and ignite your natural inner advocate by healing the fawn response.  I help you achieve this through my 8-week program, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  <br/><br/>You are gently guided in nurturing more safety, more connection, a