What Motivates You? Looking At External Validation vs. Internal Validation

Nadia Jaftha

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In this episode of Everyday EQ, I review the third component of emotional intelligence, which I call internal validation. This is my adaptation of Daniel Goleman's "intrinsic motivation," so I explain the difference and why I've found validation to be a more powerful influencer of behavior. I break down the different types of internal validation and external validation, and I even give you an exercise to help you assess whether you're just doing something to get external validation. Life-changing stuff, here. 00:30 - I label this component of emotional intelligence as Internal Validation instead of Daniel Goleman's "intrinsic motivation."1:01 - First, let's define intrinsic motivation 1:25 - Now, on to why I see validation as more influential when it comes to your emotional intelligence3:22 - An example of making money from internal validation vs for external validation5:58 - Breaking down the difference between internal validation vs external validation6:16 - Internal validation feels like...7:08 - And external validation be like...7:55 - A sidebar on trying to prove yourself8:49 - Back to listing other forms of external validation11:05 - How to stay internally validated 11:24 - Start with your system for success, using your top 5 emotional needs. ***If you don't know your top 5 emotional needs, you can discover them with <a href='https://theceqo.com/top-5-needs'>this free worksheet that you can DOWNLOAD HERE</a> https://theceqo.com/top-5-needs (or grab it from my bio link on Instagram @justjfc).***12:44 - Creating a life that's aligned will take effort, not gonna lie. #worthit13:20 - But, even with its challenges, creating an authentic life will FEEL better. 14:49 - How internal validation can help you leverage your emotions so you are doing things for the right reasons14:49 - An alignment check exercise that will help you fi

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