Week 529–Smart Loving–Byron & Francine Pirola–The Grand Gesture

Smart Loving –Byron & Francine Pirola–The Grand Gesture (Most of us are time starved and our marriages have serious cases of attention deficit disorder. That is, they are chronically neglected. It's tempting, therefore, to succumb to what we call the grand gesture solution, some extravagant display of generosity that is intended to make up for the multiple shortcomings in our attention. But here's the thing, most relationships don't need a banquet or quality time, they simply need frequent small snacks. In fact, our marriage flourishes far better, with frequent daily attention in small doses. The grand gesture is a lovely idea, but it's no good as a maintenance strategy. To maintain our connection day by day, we need to put in place simple habits that create space for time together in an overcrowded schedule. Whether it's a child, a parent, a friend, or your spouse, if you're not giving the relationship sufficient time, the relationship will stagnate and potentially break down, making regular time for each other in small doses is one of the most powerfully loving things you can do.)