Victim Vs. Growth Mindset: Where Do You Stand?

<p>Many empaths struggle with victim mentality. People struggling with victim mentality do typically see themselves as a victim. We don’t want to be there, but we do when we become consumed by our fear-based thoughts.</p> <p>Get ready for some tough love (in the most compassionate way). Let's go over some key signs of having a victim mentality:</p> <ul><li>Poor me attitude</li> <li>Focused on what others are doing to you</li> <li>Difficulty taking responsibility for one’s own role in their disempowerment</li> <li>The perception that people are always against you</li> <li>Blaming others for not meeting our needs</li> <li>Constantly complaining or venting about life and how you can’t do anything to change your situation</li> </ul> <p>Many factors play into the reason why empaths struggle with victim mentality (ex. co-dependent relationships, past trauma, etc.), but discernment plays a huge role in whether we are operating in victim vs growth mentality as empaths.</p> <p> </p> <p>Many of us empaths struggle with discernment. But what is discernment exactly?</p> <p>Discernment: The ability to judge well, distinguishing what is right/wrong for you. It’s the ability to determine the difference between what your truth is and what a lie is.</p> <p>When we grew up as empaths, we often found ourselves being taught to not trust our intuition by our caregivers or the adults around us. Maybe your insights got you in trouble and it led you to seek out validation from others and to be fearful of making decisions that felt good to you and your inner knowing.</p> <p> </p> <p>We might’ve even ended up in a codependent relationship because we can’t trust our own feelings. This big hot mess of disempowerment probably skyrocketed us into fear and a victim mindset. Then we start to think:</p> <ul><li>Will I ever be able to trust my gut?</li> <li>Why can’t I have a mutually satisfying relationship that allows me to feel freedom and autonomy as an individual who is capable of making their own decisions?</li> <li>Will I