The Pursuer and Distancer dance in Marriage

<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif;">Are you always running to your partner for help?</span></strong></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif;">If a text or call <em>doesn’t come in</em>, you worry and you think <em>something is wrong.</em></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; color: black;">If you answered yes, you could perhaps be the <strong>pursuer.</strong></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; color: black;">The <strong>pursuer</strong> will frequently seek <em>togetherness, quality time, attention, and affection</em> from their partner. However, the <strong>distancer</strong> responds to this by <em>withdrawing and seeking space</em> which leaves the pursuer in an <em>anxious, sometimes desperate, state</em>. </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white;"><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; color: black;"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white;"><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; color: black;">A problem occurs only when a <strong>pattern of pursuing and distancing becomes fixed</strong>. When this happens, the <em>behaviour</em> of each partner provokes and maintains the behaviour of the other." </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white;"><span style= "font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; color: black;"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white;"> <strong><span style="font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; color: black;"> Learn 6 ways how to unhook the pursuer and distancer dance in Marriage.</span></strong></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style= "mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; background: white;"> <span style="font-family: 'Arial',sans-serif; color: black;"><em>We all bring our own pasts</em>, emotions, attachment styles, anxieties, and insecurities to a relationship. However, if we can <em>make an effort</em> with ourselves and und