The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly about being in your 20s

<p><strong>Show Notes</strong><strong>:</strong></p> <p>A lot of 20-somethings view 20s as a time for fun, but that is faulty thinking. 80% of life’s most defining moments take place by 35, earning power is decided in your 1st 10 years, brain & personality change more during 20’s than at any other time before or after</p> <p>The 20s is a time of lots of choices & greater freedom, but 20-somethings may experience this as a two-edged sword as it creates confusion and anxiety and uncertainty</p> <p>Meg Jay describes what identity capitol is and how 20-somethings can become aware of what they’ve learned about themselves up till now. Identity capitol is personal assets, what we have to show for how we have spent our time, investments we make in ourselves, aptitudes, interests, passions, how we present ourselves, solve problems, cope with life’s ups and downs, hobbies, life experiences; how you resolved your identity crisis; it’s valuable to assess what your past life experiences say about you and your future</p> <p>We discussed the potential cost of being underemployed and being too focused on not wanting to settle</p> <p>Dating and relationships was also discussed: the choice of who you marry is more important for long term happiness than what college you go to; age 30 deadline, angst if still unmarried and feel behind and pressured to find someone; <strong>the importance of our self-perceived mate value:</strong> people spend more time planning a wedding than they do planning a relationship, should spend time and money on retreats, therapy, personal growth</p> <p>We discussed the critical shift from <strong>being wanted to wanting = what do you want and deserve?</strong></p> <p>The biologic clock is real as far as having children; you can use that urgency to help 20-somethings plan their futures instead of being anxious and stressed</p> <p><strong>What is the effect of the frontal lobe not fully wired until sometime between 20-30?</strong> Opportunity for new connections that won’t happen again in our lives, never b