The Energy Behind Asking for Permission

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">          When I was a little girl I was taught to always ask first and then do second. When my parents said yes, that meant I could go ride my bike. When my parents said no, that meant I didn’t get dessert. The yes’ always felt the best but I seemed to have met with more no’s. This pattern continued into elementary school. When the teacher said yes, I could go to the bathroom. When they said no it wasn’t snack time yet, I couldn’t eat. The idea of asking before doing is to keep us safe as children but what happens is we all continue this habitual pattern that was given to us into adulthood without even consciously knowing we are still doing it, yep you heard me. We are all grown up’s asking for permission to just be ourSelves. Every time we ask for permission for something we don’t need to, we are giving away our power and relying on someone else to make that decision for us. Now that’s crazy if you ask me. When I dove in and realized how much I was still asking for permission for as a 29-year-old woman I was dumbfounded. Now how do we figure out if we are caught in a permission circle? </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">          The first step is to begin noticing when you are giving your feminine power away in this way. Ask yourSelf if you are asking for permission for things that you don’t have to. This could be in different aspects of your life; personal, home, work, etc. The thing about asking for permission as adults is that it looks a couple of different ways. The first way is exactly how you probably imagined, ‘Can I …’ ‘May I ….’, ‘Do you think it would be alright to …’. Generally, we ask in the way we were taught as kids so if you were from a polite family your wording may be different than a family that was a little rougher around the edges in their delivery. Start to notice your words and the meaning behind them. Now the second way that it may come out that you are asking for permission is when you ask for someone’s opinion then don’t do what you wanted