The Desire Map | What's Not Working

<p>This is like a weather report, you&apos;re just stating the facts like an observer while possessing that observer-mindset. <br/><br/><b>What’s not working/needs to change . . . because . . . </b></p><p>We have to get real about the negatives in our lives so we can make a plan </p><p>to transform them, or at least to <em>consciously </em>not pay attention to them (in which case, some of our so-called problems often tend to disappear). </p><p>Next to each thing that you note that isn’t working, consider “WHY that issue is causing you negative stress or pain . . .” </p><p><b>Approach this as an observer. </b>You’re a witness to the story. You are <em>noticing the type of things that aren’t working. </em></p><p>Healthy observations are these: what feels “off,” out of alignment, painful, or incomplete. Unhealthy observations are lists of complaints, taking the position of self-victimization—of something that you feel is happening <em>to you</em>. Blaming. And that includes self-blame and criticism. </p><p>Stay in the witness mode, and try to simply notice what in your life is currently causing some suffering or frustration. </p><p>Don’t go into fix-it mode yet. We’re just observing. </p><p><b>Cues </b></p><p>WHAT’S NOT WORKING . . . <em>I’m dissatisfied or frustrated. Disappointed, agitated, suffering. </em></p><p>BECAUSE . . . <em>(</em><b><em>how/why </em></b><em>this circumstance creates stress or pain). </em></p>