SYSK Choice: The Best Advice is Not to Give Any & Overcoming Cognitive Dissonance

People say they are attracted to people who make them laugh and have a good sense of humor. But it is a bit more complicated than that. It is true that humor can bring people together, but it can also pull them apart. This episode begins with an explanation about humor and couples. https://www.theknot.com/content/couples-who-share-sense-of-humor-study When someone asks you for advice, you likely give it. After all, they asked. However, you may be better off by keeping quiet and withholding your advice, at least for a little while. That’s the suggestion of Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael has been named #1 Thought Leader in Coaching and he is considered one of the top coaches in the world. He is also author of a book called The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever (https://amzn.to/36WEUdY). Michael joins me to explain why you might want to be a little more stingy with your advice. We all tend to justify our mistakes and poor decisions to ourselves. When we do something wrong or that we regret, it doesn’t line up with our beliefs about how we are good and honest people. So we make excuses or we decide there were extenuating circumstances because we know we are not bad people – we are good people who made a mistake. This process is called cognitive dissidence. Everyone does it and it can get you into trouble according to social psychologist Carol Tavris author of the book Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts (https://amzn.to/2ADP2Mw). Listen as Carol joins me to discuss this fascinating topic. How do you cut your lawn – side to side? Front to back? Listen and I’ll tell you what the experts say which is the best way to mow. https://www.familyhandyman.com/landscaping/lawn-care/the-most-efficient-way-to-mow-the-grass/ PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really like The Jordan Harbinger Show! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen!  Truebill is the smartest