Somewhere Between The Rage and the Silence: Mastering Self-Regulation | Part 2/3 on Emotional Intelligence | ’ask dorothy’ | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E19

  'ask dorothy' <p style="text-align:center;">Somewhere Between The Rage and the Silence: Mastering Self-Regulation | A Real Life Client Story</p> <p style="text-align:center;">Part 2/3 on Emotional Intelligence</p> The WISDOM podcast  Season 3  Episode 19 <p> </p> <p style="text-align:center;">-  Self-Regulation is one of the five basic competencies of emotional intelligence.  -</p> <p style="text-align:center;">  💜</p> <p style="text-align:center;">Timestamps:</p> <p style="text-align:center;">Does This Sound Familiar?  0-1:33 |  Podcast Theme Intro:  1:34 | How You Learned Emotional Dysregulation:  4:12 | Your Amygdala Hijacking:  5:32 |The Role of Your Frontal Lobes in Self-Control:  6:39 | What Makes You Emotionally Intelligent:  7:48 |  My Client Gary and wife Silvana: 9:45 |  What is Your Typical Emotional Reaction?  13:13 |  The 3 Best Skills of Self-Regulation:  13:34 | 1. Breath and Your Vagus Nerve:  15:13 |  2. Self-Assessment:  17:15 |  3. Self-Regulation Strategy: 18:27 | Let's Dive Deeper Together: 22:04 | Podcast Theme Outro:  23:04</p> <p style="text-align:center;"> </p> <p>What if you grew up in a household where one parent would lose their cool a lot? They would yell at the top of their lungs whether in general frustration or as a means of calling attention to something that you or one of your siblings wasn’t doing or was doing that you shouldn’t be. What if both parents did that and it became a normative culture to witness raised voices every time someone was frustrated or angry?</p> <p>What if yelling by one or both parents was taught as acceptable based on the rationalization that ‘yelling is the only way for me to get you to listen.” </p> <p> </p> <p>Or, perhaps in your home you witnessed one or both parents blaming another person or a situation for how they feel. For example, making an external condition the source of one’s stress rather than looking to one’s thoughts and perceptions as the cause of one’s feelings.</p> <p> </p> <p>We all have experiences growing up of how d