Sherianna Boyle - Emotional Detox

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In this episode, our guest is Sherianna Boyle, an author of many books. She’s an emotional detox coach who helps people roll through the different life stages. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[7:27]</span> <strong>Why should we listen to you?</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It’s not about</span> <em><span style="font-weight: 400;">why</span></em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">, but</span> <em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">what</span></em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">. What you sense and feel in someone is extremely important.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">I process my feelings regularly to show up from a space of feeling rather than reacting. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[9:08] “</span><strong>When emotion is high, intelligence is low.” Does this ring true in your work?</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When I was researching emotional detox and then emotional detox for anxiety, I found that we confuse emotions with reactions. Understand your emotions—do you feel or react?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[10:54] </span> <strong>How do you get to the “space”?</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I had to build the foundation because I realized that our foundation for emotions was manageable. And when it comes to an emotional detox, you don’t manage emotions because you don’t process it.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[16:09]</span> <strong>How do you talk to someone who’s in that space to get them to wake up and start doing that?</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It doesn’t begin with them. It starts with us. As we process what’s coming up, we become aware of the reflection of a reaction. If you avoid speaking to a sibling, then you’re in a state of reactivity. Avoidance would be like shutting down, minimizing, or ignoring. What is that person doing to you? Minimizing or ignoring—you’re making the same pattern. </span></p> <p><span style="font-wei