Sh*t, Shadow & Shame...
Lenda Letlaka
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It’s December and we’re in full holiday swing around here. Every year I “try” to slow down, bring some semblance to the activities I participate in, and voice intention for giving and receiving.<br/><br/>More times than not, it often feels as though I’ve failed. Time still moves fast. There’s always just a few weeks left ‘til gift exchange and I’m behind yet again. And to add icing to the pity cake I sure don’t feel much different than last year…<br/><br/>This is shadow talking.<br/><br/>As we bridge into our fourth question from the How to be Human inquiry list 4) What are easy reminders to be more human when some around us are walking and talking a little less human perhaps more “programmed/conditioned”…<br/><br/>My sense is our ability to navigate people, attitudes and places that don’t align with our highest values and goals comes down to how we navigate the sh*t, shadow and shame that arises in our very own lives.<br/><br/>“When the sh*t hits the fan…” is a common saying, and it’s true. Sh*t does hit the fan, and spray meticulously EVERYWHERE… Like the pipe that burst underneath my house this morning. Luckily it was just water. But ugh, honestly, I’m finding it hard even now to talk about this subject. Is it too dire? Why talk about the corners of despair or languishing in our lives?<br/><br/>Toxic positivity sometimes gets me twisted in my boots that if I even say the thing (sh*t), name the thing (shadow) or own the feeling (shame), then all I’m doing is acknowledging things that I don’t want and creating room for more of it in my life. Which is so far from the truth, but can still stop me in my tracks without a word to utter at times. <br/><br/>Sh……<br/><br/>This is how shame works. Shame shuts us down. Shame doesn’t take the blame. Shame moves and lurks amongst the shadows of the world. Those spaces we’re afraid to talk about or acknowledge. Those peop
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