Rejection, The “Pullback”, and Texting with Hillary

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Welcome to episode 201 of the Love Live Connection podcast.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you are dating, or have ever dated, you are probably familiar with the feeling of rejection. My wonderful client, Hillary, jumps on a call with me to discuss how to deal with rejection, “ghosting”, and texting expectations.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Hillary tells me about a recent date that faded into the ether and how it’s impacting her interaction with a new guy. Together we discover that old patterns can reappear in unexpected ways and I give her some tips on what to do when that happens. </span></p> <p><strong>2:18</strong> <span style="font-weight: 400;">- What is the “pullback”? </span></p> <p><strong>5:45</strong> <span style="font-weight: 400;">- Be sure to check out my totally free 60-minute workshop, “</span><a href= "http://veronicagrant.com/newyear"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">New Year, New Boo</span></a><span style= "font-weight: 400;">”. </span></p> <p><strong>7:30 -</strong> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Welcome Hillary! She asks, “How should I deal with rejection?” and, “How do I know if it’s pullback or just busy-ness?” </span></p> <p><strong>12:00</strong> <span style="font-weight: 400;">- I explain that rejection hurts, whether it’s an ego sting or dashing our dreams of what could be. </span></p> <p><strong>15:50</strong> <span style="font-weight: 400;">- It’s important to sit with those negative feelings but don’t devolve into a pity party. </span></p> <p><strong>18:30</strong> <span style="font-weight: 400;">- Hard lesson: Stop getting advice from friends.  </span></p> <p><strong>23:30</strong> <span style="font-weight: 400;">- We determine that Hillary is seeking validation through daily communication with her dates. </span></p> <p><strong>26:35</strong> <span style="font-weight: 400;">- Finding someone who texts as often as you want probably means they have other qualities you do not want. </span></p> <p><strong>29:20</str