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<p>Why Do We Become People Pleasers</p> <p>Merriam-Webster defines people, pleasers, as "a person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of his or her own needs or desires.</p> <p>People-pleasing is a state of mind where individuals convince themselves that pleasing others is much more important than their own happiness. </p> <p>While this may not sound that bad, ignoring your own needs for others can negatively impact your life - significantly. </p> <p>Most people-pleasers know how bad it can be, so how did they end up doing it anyway? </p> <p><b>People Pleasing Comes From an Unstable Childhood</b></p> <p>The number one reason adults become people pleasers is that their needs weren't met as a kid. If you are raised in a home without a great parent, you may have begun people-pleasing as a matter of survival.</p> <p>For example, people-pleasing is typical in an individual raised by a parent with mental illness. A child can't comprehend conditions like bipolar or depression. If the parent regularly took out their emotions on the child, the child became a people pleaser to avoid the parent's outbursts. This behaviour continues into adulthood. </p> <p><b>People Pleasing Comes From Trauma</b></p> <p>Not all people-pleasing comes from people who had a rough childhood. Instead, it comes from people who spent a long-time experiencing trauma that they never recognised or learned to overcome. For example, someone in an abusive relationship might become a people pleaser to avoid their partner's wrath. </p> <p>Suppose the relationship continues for an extended period, which these relationships frequently do. In that case, people-pleasing becomes a habit that is tough to shake. This behaviour will often continue, even when the abusive relationship eventually - and thankfully - comes to an end. </p> <p>While sometimes the origins of people-pleasing are dark, that isn't always the case. </p> <p><b>People Pleasing is a Habit</b></p> <p>Sometimes people-pleasing is just something you got