Pamela R Haynes interviews Rezna Khatun author of Why I Loved My Abuser.

My name is Rezna Khatun, I’m the author of the book Why I loved my abuser, The reason I wrote this book is because friends and family always ask me why I stayed in a abusive relationship for so long I wrote this book to share and bring awareness on my 25yrs of mental, emotional, physical, gaslighting, sexual, abusive relationship. Every day I would be called stupid, dumb, retard, ugly, useless, brainless, I was made to feel so worthless and powerless my inner self was a very dark, lonely, isolated place. I was so lost I was unable to think for myself I did not see a away out I gave up hope and many times I planned to take my own life. I did love my husband and I kept believing that the best will come out of him, I do believe my husband was a narcissist he was extremely manipulative, he would go to any lengths to emotionally manipulate me for me to stay with him. In the last 10 years of my relationship I was kept like a prisoner in my own house with no contact and isolated from my friends and family. Once I had my wakeup call it took me 5yrs to get the courage and strength to leave him, because he took control of my mind, spirit, heart, my believes and character. I want to bring more awareness and courage for everyone to talk about   abusive behaviour. I hope and pray that maybe someone will read my book and realise there not alone and it might give them the wakeup call they need. I do speak with lots of people from all types of community who are very ignorant to domestic violence. I’m sorry to say through my experience, domestic violence egsists in every culture, religion, country, community, gender,  The most powerful weapon a abuser has is to silent the victim with fear, the abuser will go to extreme lengths to achieve that control over the victim. It is important we talk to our children about abusive behaviour and we will not tolerate any types of abuse, we all need to talk and raise awareness and to put a stop to domestic violence.