Mother's Day After Miscarriage | #138

<p>Mother’s Day can be hard after experiencing pregnancy loss. Miscarriage Hope Desk founder, Allison Schaaf, shares her thoughts on Mother’s Day after miscarriage, including things you can do to prepare.</p> <p>Some things to consider:</p> <p>1. You can always say “no”.</p> <p>If you're invited to an event you know will be triggering, give yourself permission to say “no”. If you feel relieved when you consider declining, it’s likely the right choice.</p> <p>2. Consider staying home.</p> <p>At many places, like churches or some restaurants, on Mother’s Day, people will ask if you’re a mother to give you a flower. If that will be hard for you, consider skipping that day.</p> <p>3. Think about a Social Media break.</p> <p>There will be a lot of focus on Mother’s Day on social media this week. If that will be hard for you, consider taking a digital break.</p> <p>4. Rethink plans for the day.</p> <p>If you go out to brunch, know that the servers may ask you if you’re celebrating.</p> <p>What can you do instead?</p> <p>1. Go for a walk.</p> <p>This is a big one for me and my mental health. Going for a drive or taking a long shower can be therapeutic as well.</p> <p>2. Make a call.</p> <p>Plan a call, or in-person get together, with a friend or loved one who knows what you’ve been through.</p> <p>3. Book a massage.</p> <p>Consider letting the massage therapist know ahead of time that you don’t wish to talk about Mother’s Day.</p> <p>4. Make a special meal at your house.</p> <p>Take this opportunity to connect with your partner and plan something special at home.</p> <p>5. Reach out to someone else.</p> <p>If you have a friend or loved one who is also struggling with loss, consider reaching out to support them.</p> <p>6. Journal or visualize.</p> <p>In addition to making space for your emotions, you may be in a place where you can journal and visualize about your hopes for the future.</p> <p>Really consider what will be best and most healing for you and do that.</p> <p>‌</p> <p>Topics Discussed: Mother’s Day after misca