Mood: When You’re Not in the Mood for Sex (All About Sex Series)

Mood: When You’re Not in the Mood for Sex (All About Sex Series) <p>Let’s talk about sex, baby! It’s not just a song that R&B group Salt-n-Pepa sang in the 90’s. Getting in the mood for sex is a daily battle many married people face. Sex can become just one more thing on our to-do lists, and combined with illness, unforgiveness, insecurities, and the like, sex can become a daunting task in marriage. But what if it didn’t have to be this way? What if you could not only address the issues of why you’re not in the mood for sex, but overcome some of the challenges that are causing a divide between the sheets?</p> <p>In today’s podcast episode, I am going to unpack several causes of us not being “in the mood,” and give you some practical tips on how to get your mind, body, heart, and environment prepared.</p> Reasons You May Not Feel in the Mood for Sex <ol><li>Busyness – It’s time to tackle that never-ending to-do list and create some margin in your life. Your marriage deserves your time and attention. Let me say it another way . . . your sexual intimacy deserves your time and attention. Don’t foster <a href='https://realrelationshiptalk.com/dealing-with-a-sexless-marriage/'>a sexless marriage</a> because of doing too much. </li> <li>Insecurities – Whether it’s a weight issue, past hurts, or plain ol’ lies we’re believing about ourselves, insecurities can have a field day in our minds and cause disconnection between spouses. If you’re struggling with negative thoughts, it’s time you let those go. Don’t allow your insecurities to rob you of a vibrant sexual relationship with your spouse. </li> <li>Unforgiveness – We talked extensively about <a href='https://realrelationshiptalk.com/the-power-of-forgiveness-in-relationships-release-them-restore-you-relationship-mistakes-series-2/'>unforgiveness in episode 13</a> of the podcast, so go back and listen to that if need be. If you’re carrying an offense against your spouse, you won’t likely be in the mood for sex or be able to initiate or receive intimacy from him/her