Love, Lust and Laughter - 01.27.21

<p style="font-weight:400;"><a href='http://www.hallielieberman.com/'>Hallie Lieberman</a>, sex historian and journalist, was Dr. Diana’s <a href='https://drdianawiley.com/hallie-lieberman-author-of-buzz-the-stimulating-history-of-the-sex-toy-dec-29-2020/'>guest on Dec. 29, 2020</a>, when they spoke about her book, <a href='https://www.amazon.com/Buzz-Stimulating-History-Sex-Toy/dp/1681775433'>Buzz: A Stimulating History of the Sex Toy</a>. Today’s show concerns Hallie’s next book about the history of male escorts (including <a href='https://historycollection.com/top-10-historic-scandals-cause-firestorm-today/2/'>Rudolph Valentino</a>). “Older woman with means seeks a young man – for adventure, connection, and sex.” What’s wrong with older women paying for sex?</p> <p style="font-weight:400;"> </p> <p style="font-weight:400;">In an <a href='https://www.unsworks.unsw.edu.au/primo-explore/fulldisplay?vid=UNSWORKS&docid=unsworks_51728'>Australian study from 2018</a>, the women explained why they paid for sex: for therapy (medical and trauma issues); to learn (new types of sex play/experiences); for intimacy (touch affirmations); but overwhelmingly it was for pleasure – their own pleasure, not the man’s. We have a sex industry because we need and want one. Understanding the people in this huge industry is not helped by either idealizing or condemning them. Tune in for a lively conversation between Hallie Lieberman and Diana Wiley, who did research in 1992 on Japan’s “BoyToy” phenomenon and is also author of <a href='https://www.amazon.com/Love-Time-Corona-Therapist-Quarantine/dp/0932898998/'>Love in the Time of Corona: Advice from a Sex Therapist for Couples in Quarantine</a>.</p>