Lessons from when I gave up on my dreams

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">As we approach the holidays, maybe you’re thinking about the new year’s goals. We all know the life cycle of the typical New Year’s resolutions — start off with a bang, make progress for a few days, and then fall out of sync by February. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Perhaps at this point, you’ll make a few more floundering attempts before finally giving up and deciding, “New Year’s Resolutions don’t work!”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In working with a client recently, we uncovered how she has a pattern of giving up on her goals. She gets going and then unconsciously takes herself out of the game. This is a form of self-sabotage. And once there is a pattern of “failure,” it’s all too easy to assume that failure is a given. We actually develop an expectation of failure on future attempts.</span></p> <p><strong>How can we make progress if, unconsciously, we believe we’re going to fail?</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Dreams come to us (not the other way around), and they won’t let go until we start taking deliberate action. </span></p> <p><strong>Don’t think that your dreams are going to give up on you. They know better!</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Why do we turn away from our dreams? </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">We think it will be too hard or the outcome won’t be worth the effort. Maybe you’ve attempted things in the past that have flopped. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I’ve been there, so I get it. I had a dream of helping people on their personal development journey for years, but I believed I didn’t have enough to offer, so while I toyed with the idea, I didn’t do anything about it because it was scary as hell.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">But still, my dream kept me up at night. I finally took action.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Eventually, by aligning my conscious, unconscious, and higher conscious minds, my self-talk turned from “Can