Jealousy - In the grip of the green eyed monster

<p>In today&apos;s episode we talk about feeling jealous and being in a relationship with a partner who is excessively jealous. Jealousy to some extent is quite normal, however, if it becomes excessive it can seriously undermine your relationship.<br/><br/>Jealousy is driven be a perceived or real threat to the relationship. The jealous partner resents a third person for taking away their partner from the relationship. The ensuing feelings are often anger, resentment, mistrust,  hostility, restlessness or bitterness.  If it becomes excessive jealousy can lead to controlling and coercive behaviour in a relationship. <br/><br/>Jealousy can be a sign that there is an underlying problem with <a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-differentiated-are-you-the-key-signs-that/id1542526780?i=1000546256695'>differentiation</a>. A jealous partner often desires an emotionally fused relationship and struggles to maintain a strong sense of self.<br/> <br/>Jealousy is often driven by low self esteem. Your partner can&apos;t really love you because you yourself believe that you are not lovable.<br/><br/>Jealousy can of course also be driven by previous, negative experiences.<br/><br/>The starting point to manage jealousy, is to notice your feelings first and to understand where they are coming from.  You can then assess whether there really is a threat to the relationship or not.<br/><br/>The Relationship Maze courses:<br/>What is your argument style? Find out in our short <a href='https://mrqz.to/argumentstyle'>quiz</a>.<br/><br/> Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively in our <a href='https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2'>Stop Arguing, Start Loving</a> mini course. <br/> <br/> Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course <a href='https://therelationshipmaze.com/'>The Relationship Maze</a>, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to unders