Intimacy after kids, with Catherine Topham Sly

<p>In this episode, two couples experts get together talking about the hardship of having sex after having had kids, with the sleep deprivation, change in roles, breastfeeding, exhaustion and possible resentment getting in the way. Don’t worry, we lift you up by also providing hope around how you can reconnect again sexually, with emotional and physical intimacy.</p> <p>Catherine Topham Sly is a BCAP accredited counsellor, writer, and speaker who specialises in relationships, and particularly the challenges of staying connected with your partner while raising a family together. A communication and intimacy specialist, Catherine offers research-based therapy, coaching, and online courses, supporting parents to reconnect and stay close after having kids.</p> <p>We talk about </p> <p>4:58 Insight and connection</p> <p>6:33 Physical and emotional intimacy are two sides of the same coin</p> <p>8:26 Different triggers for sexual desire</p> <p>10:42 The effects of rejection</p> <p>11:07 How to break the cycle of rejection</p> <p>12:26 Avoiding people pleasing</p> <p>13:43 How much sex are people really having?</p> <p>15:31 Performative vs connective sex</p> <p>17:58 Reconnecting after a traumatic birth or the early days of parenthood</p> <p>19:42 The benefits of reconnecting</p> <p>21:20 The effect of the coronavirus pandemic on relationships</p> <p>24:40 Talking about our values</p> <p>26:39 Advice to expectant parents</p> <p>28:52 The effects of breastfeeding on libido and intimacy</p> <p>30:36 Hope for couples who have gone through a long period without intimacy</p> <p>32:41 Returning to sex</p> <p>34:26 Getting out of the habit of touching</p> <p>35:36 Sex doesn't have to be penetrative</p> <p>36:26 When it's time to go our separate ways</p> <p>38:22 Seeking help when it's needed</p> <p>41:03 Setting good habits in a relationship</p> <p> </p> <p>You can follow Catherine on Instagram <a href='https://www.instagram.com/insightandconnection/?hl=en'>@insightandconnection