I Keep The Wolf From The Door

For me, BDSM feels like balancing between two mental states at once. Being (and staying) open minded has taught me everything I know and gained me every experience I&#8217;ve had. It&#8217;s also brought me to every, single one of my boundaries. Some lessons are learned the easy way and some - not so much. I&#8217;ve had my fair share of both.<br/><br/>In this podcast, I talk about a pivotal submissive who I knew earlier in my career. He used his age and 40+ years of experience in BDSM to seamlessly position himself as my mentor. It quickly turned into a relationship that I began to dread. My ego wanted so badly to be the Ultimate Domme to this man who seemed so enthralled with my *<em>potential*</em> but my gut told me something was wrong.<br/><br/>These days, I&#8217;m very passionate about people forging their own way through BDSM because of experiences like this. I&#8217;ve had plenty of my own and I&#8217;ve witnessed some too. Only <em>you</em> know what your submission or domination looks and feels like and that&#8217;s a wonderful thing. Don&#8217;t let anybody leverage their personal preferences over your explorations. This is a self-led journey and you&#8217;re the only authority.<br/><br/>Keep the wolf from the door and I&#8217;ll bug you again next week ;)<br/><br/>xo Bastienne<br/><br/>PS. Here&#8217;s <a target="_blank" href="https://shop.dromsjel.com/products/i-keep-the-wolf-from-the-door">dromsjel&#8217;s amazing original painting</a>. I currently have a print hanging in the The Wiggle Room. <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you&#8217;d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://bastienne.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast">bastienne.substack.com/subscribe</a>