How You See Yourself

<p>Self-image, at its core, is the way you <strong>see </strong>yourself. By “see” I mean how you interpret and think about yourself – not just the factual way you see yourself but also the <strong>opinion </strong>that you have of yourself.</p><p>An important concept to understand is that self-image is totally subjective. It is totally up to YOU. <strong>Your </strong>opinion about yourself. It isn’t factual.</p><p>We spend a lot of time being concerned about what other people think of us. We spend way more time trying to control or manage what other people think instead of how we see ourselves. And of course, it’s impossible to control how others think of us.</p><p>But still, we worry about what we wear, what we drive, the house we live in, how good we are at ZOOM homeschooling during a pandemic...and we do all this concerned about how we measure up in other people’s minds, often without realizing that that's what we're doing.</p><p>Doing the work to <i>change </i>this could really blow your mind and change your life.</p><p>Maybe you don’t know how to access your own opinion in the way you thought you did. Maybe you don’t know how to identify your needs because you’ve been so deeply socialized into people-pleasing.</p><p>So, to really think about what bothers you and why, what your preferences are and what you have an aversion to, what feels the best in your body and for your body...asking yourself those questions can yield truly magical results.</p><p>In practice, this isn’t easy – so many of us are so obsessed with what other people think about us that we don't even want to look at it.</p><p>In this episode, I offer up some exercises you can do to trick your brain into not rejecting the idea that you care what other people think about you but to <i>sit with</i> it. It starts by asking yourself: “What is my dream of how others see me? If I could really dictate everyone’s opinion of me, what would it be?”</p><p>I push you to go to those best-case scenarios so that you can unearth the true “why” behind your desi