How you parent matters: Don’t screw up your kids

<strong><u>Show Notes</u></strong><strong>:</strong> How you parent matters, and the style of parenting you employ will have long-term effects on who your kids become. <p>Dr. Jordan describes two main parenting styles: authoritarian and authoritative.</p> <p><strong>Authoritarian or Autocratic Parenting</strong>: Parents tend to make rules and set high expectations but lack warmth, nurturance, feedback, and support. Authoritarian parents tend to “rule with an iron fist.” They are often described as strict, demanding, cold, critical, and punitive. Mistakes tend to be punished harshly. When feedback does occur, it is often negative, and parents will punish kids by withholding expressions of affection.</p> <p>Ÿ Yelling and corporal punishment are also common, and parents utilize punishments with little or no explanation. Obedience and conformity are valued highly.</p> <p>Dr. Jordan describes the feelings, decisions, and behaviors of kids who grow up in authoritarian homes. He also discusses how spanking has been found to be associated with <a href= "http://mediad.publicbroadcasting.net/p/kuar2/files/201612/spanking_and_child_outcomes.pdf">increased risk of 13 detrimental outcomes</a>, including aggression, antisocial behavior, impaired cognitive ability, mental health problems and physical injury, and rebellion.</p> <p><strong>Authoritative or Democratic Parenting</strong>: autonomy-supportive parenting, recognize & sensitive to child’s needs and desires, let kids take initiative and follow their lead, respect child’s perspectives, encourage child to experiment, encourage creativity and out of the box thinking, encouraging, play-by-play announcer, give choices & decision-making, solve own problems & think critically about the reasons behind each rule, support autonomy, safe and stable base, emotionally warm, close, and nurturing, long-term goals of self-control & self-motivated & self-responsible & self-determination.</p> <p>Value development of self-control & self-responsibility vs obedience</p> <p><strong><u>Samue