How we are ruining kids with a distorted definition of success

<p><strong>Show notes:</strong></p> <p align="left">Societal push to give kids leg up, an edge, childhood is race to be best/top, keeping up with the Jones’ kids, early specialization, pushed to decide what you should be before first figuring out who you are</p> <p align="left">A better path: Early sampling, diverse experience, breadth, interdisciplinary thinking, delayed concentration, ability to integrate broadly, go thru sampling period best prepares kids</p> <p align="left">Learning things is less important than learning about yourself, growing self-knowledge, consider how much we grow and evolve and discover new things about ourselves; will have many jobs in future not just because jobs and technology changes but because YOU change!</p> <p align="left">Do experiments: Focus on here’s who I am now, here are my motivations, here’s what I’ve found I like to do, here’s what I’d like to learn, here are the opportunities, which of these is the best match right now? After a while I may switch if I find something better or a better match, short term planning</p> <p align="left"><a href= "https://drtimjordan.com/?p=8382"><strong>My Dot Theory</strong></a><strong>: do whatever seems like it would teach you something and allow you to be of service, diverse experiences accumulate, do what’s needed and drawn to at the time, the only plan is to do what is interesting or needed now</strong></p> <p align="left"><strong>Unhealthy definition of success:</strong> attaining wealth and status by climbing institutional ladder = know your destination, work hard, nose to the grindstone, stay the course, just do same things as others but better; happiness is reward for staying the course, retire and then have fun</p> <p align="left"><strong>Dark horses value fulfillment</strong>, passion, sense of purpose, deeply engaged in what they did; pursuit of fulfillment led them to success & was crucial for their success</p> <p align="left"><strong>Ask why they like activities</strong>, grades, score goals, draw</p> <p align="left">Dark hors