How to Handle Homesick College Students

<p class="MsoNormal">Show Notes:</p><p> </p><p class="MsoNormal">Learn how to handle calls from homesick college freshmen to empower them to learn how to cope, problem-solve, and grow in confidence.</p><p> </p><p class="MsoNormal">Many parents have been guilty of doing too much for their daughters prior to launching them off to college: solving problems, advocating, rescuing, not allowing her to make mistakes or suffer, wanting her to be happy always</p><p> </p><p class="MsoNormal">This results in girls never learning coping skills, how to handle the normal ups &amp; downs of life, face adversity &amp; struggle thru it to overcome obstacles and gain confidence; they lack the confidence to face adversity and handle it because they weren’t allowed to growing up.</p><p> </p><p class="MsoNormal"> Dr. Jordan describes a typical call from a homesick college freshman. He shares how to listen, mirror, normalize and validate their feelings, and then how to turn over the problem-solving to them.</p><p> </p><p class="MsoNormal"> Learn some helpful phrases to turn problems back over to them to solve such as: “So, what will you do?” “What have you tried?” “What could you do different?” “How could you approach the problem in a different way?” “What have you done in the past when you felt stuck like this?” “You might want to take a break, calm down, &amp; then come back and try again.”</p><p> </p><p class="MsoNormal"> Ask who they could reach out to for support and encourage them to use whatever coping strategies have worked in the past: journal, art, music, poetry, letters, nature, exercise, join a club to meet people like did in HS.</p><p> </p><p class="MsoNormal"> Dr. Jordan also discusses how to handle the issues of whether or not to have them come home and also how to set boundaries about phone calls home.</p><p> </p><p class="MsoNormal"> For a good read for your high school or college aged daughter, use this link to have them find and read Dr. Jordan’s book, <a href="https://drtimjordan.com/books/"> Letters from My Grand