Going For The Gotcha: The Big Damaging Difference Between Verifying and Validating Your Partner

<p><strong>Are you wrong every time you turn around? Does your partner--or mother--have to win in every conversation? </strong></p><p><strong>Someone who has to be right all the time is verifying, not validating. That can not only be infuriating and frustrating, it's nasty! </strong></p><br><p>Sound familiar? Is there someone in your life who always thinks they have the facts. They remember events better than you. Know what you should do?</p><br><p>That's<strong> gaslighting</strong>! When another person wants to define your reality for you--tell you what you want, think, need, feel, remember, that's gaslighting. They want to be in <strong>control of your experiences and responses in life</strong>, and that is taking away a basic right you have!</p><br><p>Oxford dictionary:</p><p><strong>Verify</strong>: to make sure or demonstrate that something is true, accurate, justified</p><p><strong>Validate:</strong> to recognize or affirm the worth of a person or their feelings or opinions; cause a person to feel valued or worthwhile</p><br><p>Big difference! Are you asking <strong>"What's going on in my relationships</strong>?" This could be it. Get tips for making it stop.</p><br><p>Big hugs!</p><p>Rhoberta</p><br><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Why you feel frustrated in your relations</strong></li><li><strong>Understanding the difference between being verified and validated</strong></li><li><strong>Why being verifying is a game of one upmanship</strong></li><li><strong>Knowing how it feels to be validated</strong></li><li><strong>Understand that being validated in a relationship is healthy</strong></li><li><strong>You are not weak or needy to want to be and feel validated in your close relationships</strong></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler?&nbsp;We can talk:&nbsp;</strong><a href="https://forrelationshiphelp.com/join" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Introductory session for new clients, $