Free Yourself From The Opinion of Others

<p> </p> <h2>Question of the Week by <a href= "https://www.relaxedmale.com/brotherhood/">The Brotherhood of Me</a></h2> <p><strong><a href= "https://www.quora.com/Why-am-I-not-happy-in-my-life" target= "_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Why am I not happy in my life?</a></strong></p> <p>There are a lot of reasons that you are lacking joy and happiness in your life. Since I don't know you from adam I can only guess as to why you are unhappy and restless.</p> <p>The number one reason I would surmise is that you don't have a purpose. What gets you out of bed each morning? People need to have a why a purpose, a passion Whatever you would like to call it, you need one. Something that allows you to struggle and get out of your comfort zone.</p> <p>Sadly many people are just <a href= "https://www.relaxedmale.com/throw-off-your-chains-of-comfort/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">way too damn comfortable</a> for their life. We need struggle and <a href= "https://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-choices-lead-happy-fulfilling-life/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">discomfort to have joy in our lives</a>. Much like how we need the valleys of life to celebrate the summits of our achievements. We need dark to appreciate the light. It may sound like a horrible and cruel paradox but look at anybody who is genuinely happy and they will tell about the hard times they had in their life.</p> <p>Why do you think so many poor people appear to be so happy while rich people often appear to be so miserable. That is because of the benefit of the struggle.</p> <p>So how do you wade into something uncomfortable? I would say write down 10 or more things that scare you. Is it speaking in public or possibly joining a group. Start small. You may do what Jia Jiang did and just get people to tell him no.</p> <figure> <div>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ</div> </figure> <p>There find the things that scare you and start trying to do them. Don't be afraid of failure. That is a part of learning and skill-building. You didn’t jus