Episode #55: Understanding Emotional Intelligence and How it Transforms Your Life with Heidi Romer

<p>Welcome to episode #55. In all honesty, this episode is one of the most powerful yet on the podcast.</p> <p>This conversation about emotional intelligence, healing, and our nervous system is something I wish we were all taught in school.</p> <p>It’s basically “how to be human 101.”</p> <p>I was joined by my friend and life and trauma coach, Heidi Romer. She introduces emotional intelligence, the importance of doing deep inner healing work, being aware of our emotions, and finding the ways we can manage, honor, and work through our emotions and nervous system responses in our lives.</p> <p>My favorite quote from Heidi from the episode is : “The first step to healing is awareness. You have to be aware of something to change it. The second thing is awareness without judgement.”</p> <p>There are too many powerful highlights from the conversation to list here, but here is a snapshot:</p> <ul> <li>We dive into our habit of avoiding our emotions, and creating an identity based on the stories we tell ourselves.<span class= "Apple-converted-space"> </span></li> <li>Heidi shares how we stay in self-sabotaging patterns, why we stay in the uncomfortable emotions and how the uncomfortable emotions are actually what is “comfortable” because it is the emotion and story we know.<span class= "Apple-converted-space"> </span></li> <li>How when we don’t allow ourselves to feel our emotions in those traumatic experiences, they get trapped and we create an identity with those stories.</li> <li>She explains how breath work brings you to a state of fight or flight in order to work through how your emotions trigger a nervous system response. It teaches you to support yourself and no longer hold that emotional response to the stories we are telling ourselves.</li> <li>She talks about when you heal yourself, and honor your emotions, you plug your own holes in your self and don’t need others to fill a void through temporary "bandaids" or validation. Instead, you are whole as you, honoring yourself, and that impacts how you relate and eng