Episode 174 Q&A: How to Teach Kids It’s Okay to Ask for Help & Make Mistakes

<p>This weeks <strong>question is from Emma</strong>,</p> <p><em>“I’m struggling with my sixth-grade daughter who <strong>refuses to ask for help, even when it's obvious she needs it</strong>. This is becoming a major issue with school assignments as she is encountering some material she doesn't instantly understand. It's <strong>also an issue at home</strong> with various things, as she'll say she understands something and knows what to do, but then it becomes clear she actually doesn't. I have tried talking with her about it, <strong>I tried reassuring her that we all need help sometimes</strong>, and it's okay to ask, but beyond that, I'm just not sure what else to do. Any suggestions are welcome.”                         </em></p> <p>In this episode, I will address <strong>how to help kids when they are resistant to asking for help</strong> or have a <strong>low tolerance for making mistakes</strong>.  As adults, we can teach them how to overcome any uncomfortable feelings by <strong>modeling in ways that show them it is a normal part of life</strong> even as adults. I will give you many scenarios and tips to do just that in the home, at school, or in public settings. </p> <p>You can <strong>submit a question</strong> by emailing us at <strong>support@drbeurkens.com</strong> with the subject line <strong>"Podcast Question."</strong></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Timestamps: </strong></p> <p><strong>Episode Intro … 00:00:30</strong></p> <p><strong>Listener’s Question … 00:00:50</strong></p> <p><strong>Acknowledging Emotions Around Asking for Help … 00:01:50</strong></p> <p><strong>Allow Kids to Sit with Their Feelings … 00:04:50</strong></p> <p><strong>Normalizing Mistakes & the Associated Feelings … 00:06:15</strong></p> <p><strong>Modeling Mistakes & Working Through Them … 00:08:36</strong></p> <p><strong>Praising and Spotlight Efforts in Hard Things … 00:10:52</strong></p> <p><strong>Start Practicing Mistakes When Stakes are Low … 00:12:40</strong></p> <p><strong>Give the Opportunity for the Child to Be in the He