EP 409: Should We Continue the Relationship After Infidelity? With Jade

<p dir="ltr">This call is about deciding whether or not to rekindle a relationship after experiencing infidelity or betrayal. Today’s call was originally intended to be a couples session with Jade and Matthew. But, Jade has decided to exclude Matthew from the call. She describes why she made the decision. Some people can work through infidelity and have it strengthen their relationship. Other people need a clean break.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">[For show notes go here: <a href= "http://christinehassler.com/episode409">Christinehassler.com/episode409</a>]</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">What can happen when we are working through trust issues and articulating our needs is that when we get to a point where we are triggered, we throw up a barrier rather than a boundary. When we are a person who hasn’t been great at boundaries in life, what can happen when we’re pushed to an edge is we can just throw up a wall.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Anytime we cheat, there’s a part of us that’s scared of intimacy with the person that we’re with. There are a lot of other reasons but it’s like we’re afraid to go deep with the person we’re with. There can be a pattern of not being able to be fully intimate and fully vulnerable in relationships.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Most things that happen to us that aren’t necessarily what we want to happen are on some level due to our soul calling in a situation to help us heal something that isn’t optimal inside of us.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Consider/Ask Yourself:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Do you often not hold boundaries to the extent of when you’re pushed to an edge a wall and barrier comes up?</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Have you tried to forgive someone and tried to heal through relationships but you just keep getting hurt?</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Do you have a hard time