EP 396: Healing Unworthiness with Matt

<p dir="ltr">This episode is about healing anxiety, unworthiness, and shame. Today’s caller, Matt, recently came clean about some secrets about his past with his partner. He sabotaged his relationship but would like to date again, fully able to love and commit. Any listeners who felt instability in their childhood will benefit from this conversation.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">[For show notes go here: <a href= "http://christinehassler.com/episode396">Christinehassler.com/episode396</a>]</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Often, the people who are most free-spirited are the adults who as children wanted stability and didn’t have it. They’ve never known stability so they have to fall in love with freedom or fall in love with not having accountability.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">If you were adopted, didn’t have time with your mother, or something happened, it doesn’t mean you are doomed for life. Give yourself the dignity of your process. Give yourself the compassion, TLC, mothering, and nurturing you didn’t receive. Having compassion for yourself and an understanding of why you are the way you are is important.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Adoption is a beautiful thing. There are so many people who have had much better lives because they’ve been adopted versus if they had stayed with their biological parents. And people who choose to give their child up for adoption because they know another family could give them a better life are angels in so many ways. Adoption can create a beautiful life for someone.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">And if you do meditation, or a personal practice with the intention of fixing something, remember nothing heals in judgment. Go into modalities to feel, to heal, and to allow what is there, not try to get rid of it. Because nothing heals when we think we are broken.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Consider/Ask Yourself:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Did you grow up fe