EP 379: How to Change When You Are Scared of Change with Toni

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This episode is about making the changes we know we need to make. Today’s caller, Toni, has done personal development work but still feels stuck in her relationship. Christine explores the possibility that Toni knows the changes she needs to make but is letting the fear of change hold her back from taking action.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes, go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode379"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode379</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Remember not to judge progress by external shifts. While external shifts are important it takes time for things to shift. Often, the season we are in is the awareness or the processing. We need to work our way up to making a change. But, eventually, we do have to make the change. Because awareness isn’t enough.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Integration and true transformation only happen when we change behavior. It doesn’t matter how much processing we do or how much information we have. The process of true transformation requires making big changes.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In life, if we could just connect the dots and things would change, life would be easy. It doesn’t work that way, for things to change we often have to take bold action.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Often, we know the changes we need to make but we don’t want to make them.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Consider/Ask Yourself:</strong></p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Are you in a situation you know needs to change but you just are terrified of making the change? Have you done all the work but still feel stuck?</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Do you relate to being a people pleaser and a caregiver and you feel great