EP 311: Should I Leave My Marriage? With Anne

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This episode is about making empowered decisions and changes with integrity. Today’s caller, Anne, is questioning whether or not she should leave her 25-year marriage. She feels she has tried to communicate her needs. We work through how she is communicating and whether or not she is being vulnerable enough to make an empowered decision.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes, go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode311"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode311</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Often, in masculine-feminine dynamics, it requires the feminine dropping into a deep vulnerability with no victim, no blame, no anger, no reason, just an open, heart-baring, soul truth that ignites the masculine to look within so it can open up.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When we are too much in hopelessness-helpless, when we are too much in victim, the only answer seems to be to get out of a situation because we don’t feel empowered.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">One of the ways we get empowered is to look at our side of things and then we communicate vulnerably, because we are not empowered when we communicate emotionally, reactively, or with blame or neediness.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">And remember, vulnerability is different than a victimy emotional reaction. It has a different frequency and people can hear us when we are vulnerable. They can’t hear us when we are emotional or blaming them. It puts their defenses up. They can’t hear the truth and intimacy of what we are saying when they are defensive.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Consider/Ask Yourself</strong></p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Are you torn about what to do in a relationship? Do you want to stay? Do you want to go? Do you tend to look at what so