EP 287: Stop Putting Yourself Second and Speak Your Needs with Judy

<p>This episode is about honoring your needs and speaking your truth. I coach today’s caller, Judy, through her feelings of isolation and empower her to have an honest conversation with her husband and herself about her needs.</p> <p><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode287"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode287</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Loneliness is an epidemic, especially in this day and age when so many of us live alone. We are not close to our family geographically or we don’t have a soul family or community to be a part of. We need a healing connection. We need to feel part of something, part of a tribe. We need to feel connected to ourselves. What often perpetuates a feeling of loneliness is a disconnection from ourselves that comes from judging ourselves and being hard on ourselves. If you suffer from loneliness or a lack of self-esteem, you are not alone. Let the fact that you are not alone motivate you to gain confidence and to connect with a community.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Speaking your truth is when you say what’s true for you and you are able to communicate your needs. When are you not speaking your truth?</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Many of us think people-pleasing is a way to get love and find validation. We think if people see the real us, they may not like us. The more you show the real you and the more authentic you are, your relationship with yourself will improve, your self-esteem will improve, and the intimacy and connection you have with other people will also improve.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It’s great to make other people happy but it’s