EP 261: What To Do When Others Aren’t Meeting Your Needs with Melissa

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This call is about being able to meet your own needs. Today’s caller, Melissa, had a challenging childhood and is being triggered in her current relationship. She would like guidance on how to communicate her needs to her partner. We work through how her triggers are serving her and the expression of a need versus the expectation of a need to be filled by someone else.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes, go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode-261"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode261</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">We often choose spouses and relationship partners who help us heal unmet needs and wounds from our parents.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">As humans, on a metaphysical, even spiritual level, we need other people. And, we need people to meet certain needs. And, when we learn how to meet our needs ourselves we get better at communicating healthy needs to others.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">We live in an interdependent world, yet we are sovereign beings. This means we must take an inside-out approach. First, we have to be independent in fulfilling our own needs internally and not project them on others. When we understand how to communicate our needs, not from a needy place but a place of bonding in our relationships, we can then connect and express with others toward interdependence.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">There is the difference between being needy, or trying to get someone else to fill a need, and clearly expressing our needs to another person in a way that we can teach them how to meet it.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you missed the Virtual Inner Child Workshop Level 1, you can still listen to it. It is necessary if you want to join in for Level 2, on Sept. 25-27. Go to</span></em> <a href= "https://chr