EP 257: Breaking the Silence About Child Abuse with Bianca

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This call is about healing trauma that comes from being sexualized as a child. Recent events have triggered today’s caller, Bianca, who was traumatized by her parents as a child. And, even though she was subjected to pitiful parenting, she still wants to love and protect them. We discuss the importance of making her healing a priority and how nothing that happened was her fault.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode-257"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode257</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">People who have been abused, especially by people they love and trust, are usually not quick to jump to anger. They may minimize the evilness of the actions.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">So, when we are working with people who have been victims in any way, we have to have compassion for the side of them that loves and wants to protect their abusers. It often takes some time for them to get to anger and to take action because it is a deep and confusing entanglement for the victim.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">We have to put ourselves in the victim’s shoes and realize they love these people. We cannot expect them to have the same reaction as we do. They cannot get to the anger and disgust right away because they don’t see their abusers as awful people. If the abusers are their parents, they may still be trying to get love from them.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you have endured trauma and are ready to heal, know that it is not something you can navigate alone just by listening to a podcast, doing an online workshop, or reading some books about it. It is important to find a trauma-informed therapist.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">August 28–30, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This ev