EP 254: Stop Feeling Like You Are Always Getting it Wrong with Tanya

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This call is about reconnecting with an inner child. Today’s caller, Tanya, grew up in an unstable environment and, as a result, second-guesses the choices she makes. She invites people into her life in an effort to get the love she never received as a child but the relationships play out much like her childhood, chaotic and uncertain. We discuss the ways she can reconnect with herself through vulnerability and gratitude.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode-254"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode254</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When you are dating, making friends, or when you are just out in the world, you want authenticity. You don’t want to go on a date with someone or be in a business meeting with someone who is inauthentic. Who wants that? We can expect authenticity. We want someone to be real and we want them to tell us the truth but we have to earn a person’s vulnerability.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When someone is vulnerable with us it should feel like actual true intimacy, not like we are special or we are getting an inside look. Be mindful of that. Don’t get seduced by faux vulnerability. There is a lot of seductive vulnerability and fake vulnerability in the world. We can expect and should expect authenticity from people but we must earn their vulnerability.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Seductive vulnerability is if you are new in meeting someone or dating someone and they start being super vulnerable, like telling you their deepest darkest secrets and opening up without a lot of trust built between you. It may make you feel special but it is more seductive vulnerability than true vulnerability. True vulnerability comes when you feel safe with another person and you feel seen.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><em><span style="font-weig