EP 251: Have I Outgrown My Relationship? With Sara

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This call is about personal growth and the effect it may have on a long-term relationship. Today’s caller, Sara, is working through her past trauma and childhood wounds and making a connection with her inner child. But, her relationship with her husband is not shifting. She is wondering if it is a relationship dynamic that will adjust.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode-251"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode251</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Even though the person who is doing more growth work and has more consciousness in a relationship has more responsibility, we can never change anyone through our love. However, if we break the issue-based dynamic we are in with someone then it presents an opportunity for them to break free of their patterns and maybe deal with some of their stuff. Our love cannot save anyone, change anyone, or heal anyone. That is a job we have to do ourselves. We are all 100% responsible for changing, healing, and inspiring ourselves.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If we try to get someone to change, we are continuing to involve ourselves in the relational dynamic which perpetuates the unhealthy patterns and childhood wounding. Healing doesn’t come from trying to change another person. It comes from doing your own work within the context of a relationship.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Most of our wounding happens in a relationship and most of our wounding can be healed in a relationship.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you are in a relationship and would like a couples coaching call on this podcast go to</span></em> <a href= "https://christinehassler.com/couples/"><em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">ChristineHassler.com/couples</span></em></a><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></