Ep 240: The Perfectionist’s Guide to Parenting

<p>Katherine Morgan Schafler, author of <a href="https://amzn.to/44zSDVB"><em>The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control</em></a>, busts myths on perfectionism. Many people wear perfectionism as a badge of honor, but in reality it is a maladaptive behavior that can make parenting more difficult than it already is!</p><p><br></p><p>Tallo is a digital portfolio platform where your teen can apply for scholarships, internships, and opportunities. Check them out at <a href="https://bit.ly/tallotalkingtoteens">https://bit.ly/tallotalkingtoteens</a> </p><p>Visit our website, <a href="https://bit.ly/talkingtoteenswebsite">https://bit.ly/talkingtoteenswebsite</a>, to sign up for our newsletter so you'll never miss an episode!</p><p><em>Today's show contains a discussion on suicide. If you or a loved one is in crisis, please call the US National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at (800)-273-TALK or (800) 273-8255. You can also text them via Crisis Text Line (text HOME to 741741). All services are free, confidential and available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.</em></p><p><strong>Show Notes </strong></p><p>(00:00) Introduction to Perfectionism (and Katherine!)</p><p><br></p><p>Katherine shares her background in psychotherapy and how she came to specialize in perfectionism. Plus, the modern shift of “perfectionism” meaning “balanced”—and yet how being “balanced” is often exhausting in today’s world! As Katherine notes, “...if you're feeling out of balance, do less, not more.”</p><p><br></p><p>We also discuss the two perfectionist modes: adaptive and maladaptive. Perfectionism is not inherently bad. It’s incredible that humans can have an ideal in their minds and set to work to create a more “perfect” reality. Healthy perfections know the ideal is meant to inspire. Unhealthy perfections conflate achievement and inspiration. Katherine shares two questions we can ask to determine if someone’s (or our) perfectionism is adaptive/healthy or maladaptive/unhealthy. </p><p><br></p><p>(11:40) - Perfectionism and Self-Worth </p