EP 231: Learn How to Self-soothe with Alexis

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This episode is about self-soothing strategies for empaths. Today’s caller, Alexis, wants guidance about how to find self-worth after getting out of an abusive relationship. But, we go deeper and discover that self-worth is just part of the issue. She realizes that moving toward self-soothing will be more beneficial to her at this time.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode231"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode231</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">We can’t amp up our self-worth if we keep judging and shaming ourselves. If you are trying to increase your self-worth, I want you to consistently think of things you are proud of. Not just accomplishments but choices and characteristics and all courageous actions you have taken. Increase your feelings of pride and it will increase your self-worth.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Narcissists are very attractive to empaths because empaths have huge hearts and can see what’s behind narcissism. While narcissists are self-absorbed, empaths are often selfless and are more concerned with other people’s happiness.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you are an empath who is with a narcissist, my encouragement to you is to get out of the relationship. No matter how much you love them they are unable to feel empathy and they can’t give you the love and attention you deserve. It’s a tough relationship to be in.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">And, trying to get out of triggers or uncomfortable feelings by thinking positive is a dead-end for a lot of people, especially empaths. One of your gifts is that you feel deeply so trying to escape your feelings through positive psychology or a pep talk may lead you astray because you are negating the very essence of who you are. If you are a feeling person, you have to honor your feelings.</span></p