Don’t Expect People to Be Like You

<p>For the first half of my marriage, I tried to get my wife to be like me.</p> <p>I always thought I was right. I liked to be in charge and make all of the decisions. I made her think she had to get approval from me to do anything.</p> <p>It was the same way at work. I pushed people around and told them what to do. However, whenever someone told me what to do, I was emotionally affected.</p> <p>Eventually, I realized that my attitude was creating the same problem at work as it was at home. People didn’t like or trust me. I had to learn to let people be themselves.</p> <p>If you’re someone who’s afraid of being judged, always criticizing others, and living in a tumultuous environment, reflect. Honestly consider if you are the problem—because you probably are.</p> <p>As soon as you understand and get honest about what’s happening, you can start to figure out how to fix it.</p> <p>For me, that meant going to leadership seminars. It meant telling people the outcome I needed and then stepping back. It meant ensuring that the people around me knew I trusted them. It meant learning to let go and, as a result, coming home less stressed.</p> <p>Listen to this episode for more instruction on changing your culture, both at home and at work. You may just find a transformation.</p>