Do You See Me?

<p>New and extraordinary emotional truth is shared in this session wherein Figs and Teale stop defending their stories and start experiencing the empathy and connection they long for. Discover insights into how reactivity can be an essential precursor to vulnerability.</p><p><strong>Timestamps:</strong></p><p>01:06 Small talk — Life in Hawaii</p><p>05:22 Intro to the session: The ways couples normally try to solve problems</p><p>08:07 Therapy tools: "My story is that…"</p><p>10:10 Transitioning from story of other to experience of self</p><p>13:48 Honoring the reactive cycle before dropping into vulnerability</p><p>15:30 Accessing Teale's attachment history</p><p>17:35 Session begins — Defending their stories</p><p>21:12 Why Figs uses anger</p><p>23:50 Teale's story of "I'm the wronged one"</p><p>24:48 Feeling behind the anger: Figs is alone | Teale empathizing with Figs</p><p>30:33 Teale's hurt and past around anger in men</p><p>33:33 Teale protesting with "I don't want to tolerate it"</p><p>35:09 Figs feeling triggered around "I'm not gonna tolerate it" </p><p>37:36 Teale wants to reorganize her narrative of her life</p><p>40:39 Discussing Teale's (triggering) family history</p><p>45:17 Teale's family with Figs is healing</p><p>46:20 Figs becomes emotional over being that person for Teale</p><p>48:25 Teale feels love for that fiery part of Figs</p><p>50:42 Session ends — What is your story?</p><p>51:08 Scary and activating for Teale to share her attachment history</p><p>54:15 Figs' journey to vulnerable empathy for Teale</p><p>56:59 Big vulnerable feelings may not look dramatic on the outside</p><p>59:49 Feeling activated first helps in moving to deeper vulnerable feelings</p><p>01:03:28 Ending chit-chat: The Bro and the Angry Irishman </p><p>Visit <a href="http://comeheretomepodcast.com">comeheretomepodcast.com</a> for episode transcripts, social media links, and to subscribe to the mailing list.</p><p>If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit <a href="http://empathi.com">empathi.co