Do you depend upon the negative aspect of your life?

<p>No matter how many things we do well, the brain always seems to focus on the one that doesn't, go to plan.</p> <p>With a little encouragement, however, it's possible to persuade yourself to see a more rounded picture.</p> <p>Why does the vulgar name somebody once called you, some time ago, to, seem to stick in your brain, far longer than the nice things people say about you?</p> <p>Why do your teachers always seem to emphasise, on what you can't do, rather than congratulating you for what you've done well?</p> <p>If you experience this tendency to remember negatives events more readily than positives, you're not the only one. It's a common human trait.</p> <p><b>Perhaps some of the following sound familiar?</b></p> <p>Your teacher marks a piece of work, and you dwell on the one mistake corrected, rather than the many positive comments.</p> <p><b>You argue with a friend. </b></p> <p>You find yourself ruminating over their attitude, you then start to look deeper at other imperfections they may have.</p> <p>But, you then forget the many positive characteristics that usually make them such a decent person.</p> <p>When asked how your day was, you immediately recall the one negative offhand event, despite everything having gone brilliantly well otherwise.</p> <p>You vividly remember embarrassing yourself at the swimming pool years ago, and now try to avoid the activity, even though everybody else has undoubtedly forgotten that, unpleasant incident entirely.</p> <p><b>What sticks in mind?</b></p> <p>Research suggests humans do, unfortunately, remember those unpleasant or negative events more than the positive ones, and recall slurs more clearly than praise.</p> <p>Overall, people might have had a great experience - such as a fun and relaxing Summer holiday -However, when talking about it, they often recall, only, the one small negative memory, of the trip, initially, because the train was delayed by a few hours.</p> <p>Annoyingly, it does seem to be that bad things stick in the memory, while the g