Defensive No More with Lisa Merlo-Booth

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">I'm so happy to share this conversation about overcoming defensiveness with Lisa Merlo-Booth.  I’ve had the good fortune to work with Lisa and help her in her business and last spring I offered to help her with a workshop she was hosting. During the middle of this workshop I had a breakthrough that I actually needed this class and we’re talking about what I learned about myself. Lisa is a relationship coach and a specialist in helping improve communication between partners. Her work has improved my life so much and I really wanted her to come and talk about it for everyone to learn how it could perhaps improve your life too. Enjoy.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Lisa shares with us her insights: </span></p> <p> </p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">You can change. You have to be willing to look at yourself. And most people are looking at the other people in their life, and saying - 'Look, if you didn't yell at me, I wouldn't cower. Or if you weren't, you know, controlling me all the time, I wouldn't yell. And so they're constantly trying to get the other person to change which is where they have zero power. And so, once they realize- 'Okay, wait a second'. I have a saying -  Changing me changes we. So changing me will change your marriage; changing me, will change your children; changing me will change your life right? And what people do, though, is they want to change the other person thinking if you would stop doing ... we would be okay. And I wouldn't have to do what I'm doing. Right? So you just stop, and then it'll fix us. First off, you could wait till hell freezes over before they decide they want to stop. Right and that's a lot of wasted years. And two, you can't make them do anything. And so, once people realize where their power is and they start focusing in the right place that their change can really happen quick.</span></em></li> </ul> <p> </p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level