Chaos in Relationships

<p>Ask the Professionals - Red Flags in Relationships</p> <p>Calming the Chaos welcomes Laura Vaillancourt, M.A., LMHC, GMHS of Eldercare Counseling & Guidance Services onto a Live Podcast on YouTube. We talk about how to identify red flags in relationships, and how to overcome the chaos that can come with establishing a new relationship, whether it is a friendship, romantic, or online. Laura and Tracy also answer questions from the live chat!</p> <p> </p> <p>The goal: To help people learn to detect red flags in a relationships, and what signs can indicate a good relationship</p> <ol> <li>Friendships (“Fren-amies”)</li> <li style="list-style: none; display: inline"> <ol> <li>Pace of getting to know you is too fast (“TMI”)</li> <li>Not respecting Boundaries (physical / emotional) or giving advice</li> <li>Gut Instinct tells you there may be something suspicious (intuition)</li> <li>Discreet forms of envy (“I hate you…You’re so skinny!”) or they fish for compliments</li> <li>Put-downs, shaming, namecalling or guilting (emotional manipulation) or bragging</li> <li>Gossiping about people or dislikes your friends</li> <li>Dishonesty, “forgetting,” insensitivity or overly sensitive</li> <li>Asking for money or substance use problems</li> <li>Triangulation</li> <li>Cutting you off / not responding (Passive aggression)</li> </ol> <ol> <li>Expensive Gifts / buying you things, treating you to meals, not allowing you to pay</li> <li>Being too agreeable</li> <li>Too much or too little communication with you (insensitive to your boundaries)</li> <li>Putting pressure on you to spend more time together / sexual intimacy</li> <li>Controlling / possessive behavior (checking your phone or restricting your socializing)</li> <li>Isolating, alienating you from other friends or family</li> <li>Emotional abuse (gaslighting, deflecting, namecalling, accusing</li> <li>Yelling, screaming, threatening</li> <li>Angels and Demons (extreme thinking)</li> <li>Passive Aggression (not answering your phone calls or leaving you on “read.”)</li> <l