Can You Forgive?

<p>It doesn't matter how you look at it, you have had the feeling that you have been wronged at least a few times in your life. It may be just a minor faux pas or something major where you have had a major grievance. We all have the opportunity to forgive at one point or another. </p> <p>The problem most people have is that they have the opportunity to forgive someone and they don't. These people often struggle with the anger and resentment that builds up within themselves. All because there was some occurrence and there wasn't any satisfying resolution to it.</p> <p>Therefore these people often sit in that discomfort wanting someone to recognize the injustice that they faced. Many of these people fall into a victim mindset because they start identifying with their outrage and that violation as they continue to share their stories as to how their abuse happened and how grave the injustice was and how unfair it was.</p> <p>These people start carrying the heaviest thought any man can carry. It isn't grief, it isn't even the victim mindset. It is a grudge. Now I have talked about grudges before and how you can rise to your greatest self when you are weighted down with <a href= "https://www.relaxedmale.com/the-heaviest-weight-you-will-carry-is-a-grudge/">a grudge</a>.</p> <p>A grudge is a lot like drinking poison and waiting for our enemy to die. You are throwing all your hate against someone who is barely even thinking of you. While that abuser is occupying almost every idle second of your thoughts. How can you dream of what you will become if you are letting the very person you claim to detest to live rent-free in your head?</p> <p>The question I pose is, how do you evict that nemesis forever? You may not like the answer but you forgive and you forget.</p> <h2>What forgiving is and what it means</h2> <p>Many people who have been wronged in the past just yelled, Bullshit! I do inderstand. It took a long time for me to get to the point where I forgave my mental tormentors. Yet when you do it is freeing.</p> <p>So wha