Be the Change

<p>This episode is all about being a leader in this world and our own lives every day. It’s about entering the room and turning the vibe into what you see would be the most skillful at the time - instead of automatically letting that vibe affect and change you, which is more reactionary. Sort of like the difference between a thermostat – which regulates the environment – vs a thermometer, which reacts to the environment.</p><p> </p><p>Here’s an example many of us have experienced: you’re on a plane and all of a sudden the plane drops into an air pocket and gets a little wobbly. And a few people gasp and the bell dings and they ask everyone to fasten their seatbelts…</p><p> </p><p>After fastening up, what do you do? Personally, I look to the flight attendant. Are they freaking out? If so, you bet I would be too! If they are calmly flipping through a magazine, I start to let go of my anxiety and try to relax.</p><p> </p><p>A good flight attendant is not the thermometer, letting the scene’s temperature and vibe lead to some reactionary behavior. A good flight attendant is acting like a thermostat - with the ability to impact the people around them.</p><p> </p><p>Just like them, <strong>you</strong> can be the emotional thermostat in a given scenario, able to impact the entire room. </p><p> </p><p>When I worked in the ER and a new trauma case came in, or when I would come into a birth full of tension and anxiety, or even when I was guiding and there was a rock fall or an avalanche was set off, it was literally my job to keep cool. I discovered it was one of my superpowers – to remain calm when shit was hitting the fan. </p><p> </p><p>In those situations, I often heard, “When you walked into the room, I felt a shift.” Which is good, because that it what I intended to do – and the thing is, <strong>you </strong>do it, too. <strong>You </strong>impact a room when you walk in - but the <strong>degree </strong>to which you do it is up to you.</p><p> </p><p>Sure, sometimes I had to fake that calm and control because I knew